Summer Holidays

We have a little over 3 weeks of summer holidays left here in UK and I thought now is the time for me to start putting my thoughts back on the paper (or computer – but you know what I mean!). 

I assume there is two camps of childcarers and parents out there. One camp is patiently waiting for school to start and the other one is dreading the school runs and rush. I get it! At this point the routine (or what is left of it) has evaporated with the heat wave Europe has the pleasure to experience and you might be feeling a little done and tired. Maybe the kids are not behaving as ‘great’ as the usually do, and you are wondering weather you can manage to survive the last weeks with grace and dignity, while also having lots of fun. I am here to assure you that you can and also give you a few helpful hints if you need them. 

When I find myself overwhelmed with work, children, anything (and I do, just like everyone else!) I tend to go back to basics. Maybe even have a tiny little meltdown, than I brush myself off and start thinking of things that helped In the past. And just as we get overwhelmed at times, children get overwhelmed with a lot of things. There is so much happening around them, and as they are not equipped with tools to identify feelings and process them in the most gracious way, they simply overflow their cup daily, and the spillage is seen as a tantrum, scream, slap, pinch…just to name a few. 

Now, we as adults know, that most of the time, when children act out, is usually because their basic needs are not met. They act in a way that they think will get their basic needs met, and if that does not happen, they try another way (and boy they are pretty resourceful ha?). The way adults try to correct children’s behaviour is to act when negative behaviour presents, which might work for some time, but sooner or later negative behaviour will still continue, you feel stuck, tired and overwhelmed with constant warnings. Sometimes behaviour even gets worse. That is when you have to draw a line and start over. 

So if you find yourself drawing a line and having a little ‘enough is enough’ moment, here is a few tips you might like to try out. 

  1. Plan a day or morning or hour with just you and the kids, without any other distractions, no playdate, playgroup, class etc. Take the kids to the park and just play with them, forget about preparing flawless organic snacks and just sit down with them, talk to them, listen to them, hug them, be silly and see what happens. 
  1. Praise the good behaviour – it pays off! Children need a lot of instant feedback, praise when it happens not two days later.
  1. Make them your little helpers – if you cannot get them to do their chores, promote them to your assistant, and don’t get upset if they spill a little water when they bring the cup from the table.
  1. Relax! Yes it is absolutely essential that the kids are safe, fed and thriving, but they will not remember if their toys where all tidy and in right boxes, if the clothes were matching and what you ate. What they will remember is, how much you hug them, how they felt around you, how much bugs they saw on the garden on how much they made you jump every time they showed you a spider!
  1. Read a book with them (any will do) and cuddle on the sofa. The book by Carol Mccloud is absolutely a winner when you need to reinstall some positive behaviour. I think it is absolutely genius to present the idea of filling people’s buckets when we are kind, do something nice and taking away from them when we are not. It is not complicated and very easy for children to imagine the whole thing.

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At the end of the day the thing we all agree upon is, giving children a childhood that will give them wings and teach them how to fly them. It doesn’t make a difference if you are a parent, Nanny, Manny, childcarer, Teacher, those goals are the same. 

Hope you will enjoy the rest of the summer, and if you are starting or already started school, have a great start!

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TLN

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HOW TO BE A GOOD BOSS TO YOUR LIVE IN NANNY

Nanny – parent relationship is so delicate and special, and it is unlike any other work relationship. Especially if you have a live-in Nanny that looks after you precious tiny humans and lives with you. There is no denying, that every family you work for, is different and with every new position, you learn a lot of new things – good and bad. Somehow being a Nanny, you have to learn to be your own personal advocate and coach, and the ability to advocate for yourself might be hard, especially if Nanny is living with the family.

Every Nanny is different too, and some positions you go in thinking they will be the best you ever had, turn out they are not, and some positions you had a hard time deciding for, turn out to be a blessing in disguise. You almost never know for sure, how things will turn out once you commence your position, but there is surely a few good points that every Nanny Boss should follow, at least to some extent.  So let me be your advocate if you are struggling, I guarantee you it will get better!

 

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DEAR NANNY BOSS

Having a Nanny is a luxury, and it is definitely not one of the cheapest options, when it comes to childcare. If you can’t afford a living wage and provide her with good work conditions, than you can’t afford a Nanny and should think of other options.

Don’t make your Nanny feel bad for being sick or needing time off

Nannies are human beings and they in fact, do get sick from time to time, most of the time from something they pick up in your house. So don’t make her feel like she can’t be sick, or she has to be afraid for her job, if she does. Yes it’s a huge inconvenience for you, but a good solution for situations like that is, to always have a back up. That way you don’t get stressed out and your Nanny can get better without feeling, like she is letting everyone down. The same goes for having your Nanny work crazy hours. If you overwork your lovely Nanny, no one benefits from that. Some weeks might be a bit hectic  and you will need her more, but than make sure you give her enough time off to recover. Unfortunately Nannies are not robots, as much as some families would like them to be.

Don’t bank your Nanny hours!

It’s always good, if both sides are flexible to some degree, but banking your Nannie’s hours is something you shouldn’t do. I you for some reason don’t need your Nanny around, after you come home, or you want to spend morning alone with kids – that is completely okay. But don’t expect from your Nanny to be making these hours up. She was free and willing to work, you decided you don’t need her at that time, the hours are gone and not to be stored for when you want.

Babysitting with no heads up

Just because your Nanny is living in your house, doesn’t mean she is available to you all the time. Yes, there are emergencies, and she might have to step in from time to time, which is different. But if you regularly ask her to babysit the evening an hour before her day ends (even though you knew you have obligations in advance), or ask her “Are you in tonight, could you listen for the kids?” that is just a no go for so many Nannies. And to be honest, most of the live in Nannies will not like this, but will still do it, as they will feel guilty and obligated, since they live in your house. But is it so important to respect their time off, as that is essentially giving them time to recover and start fresh next day. It’s also important that your Nanny can plan her evenings and socialise with her friends or do a sports class. That will keep her happy and content, and not isolated and miserable. So whenever you can, plan your babysitting nights at the beginning of the week and give her plenty of notice – sure, it’s not always possible, but for most of the time it is.  If you do need your Nanny to be available to you 24/7 for whatever reason, than you make sure that she knows that from the get go, and she is also noticeably compensated for that. But that is a whole another ball game.

Respect privacy

As much as you love your privacy, your Nanny loves is too. She chooses to live in at her job for whatever reason, but that does not mean that she doesn’t love peace on her time off. And depending on how many hours she works, she is probably completely fine with being left to her own devices. The children that Nanny looks after might have a hard time understanding why their friend and one of the main caregivers is out of reach for them at the times. In that case it is good to set firm boundaries from the start so everyone feels comfortable and happy.

Make your Nanny feel appreciated

Every live in Nanny knows, that when you live with the family, the rules a not just black and white. If you go to the family kitchen, and there is something on the floor – you will pick it up, sometimes even do the dishes, while you are waiting for lunch to cook or put the wet laundry in the dryer. Even though it’s weekend and it’s actually your time off. There will be a lot things, a live in Nanny will do around the house, that might not be in her job description. But she does it, because she cares about your family and your home. So just make her feel appreciated. If you notice that your Nanny is constantly going the extra mile – let her know that. Remember her birthday – especially if she is to work that day. And be generous, if you can – no Nanny will be sad about extra cash bonus.

 

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I would like to write a post about how to be a good LIVE IN Nanny as well, as I think it is equally important. This post was definitely not about criticising the Nanny bosses, but purely informative nature. There might be some, that will not agree with this point of view, and many who will – and that is okay! Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I think though, there is so many Nanny bosses out there who are just amazing, and that makes me very happy. I read about them all the time from my Nanny friends – and I, have been very lucky, to have some pretty fabulous bosses in my Nanny career.

I was writing in female form, but I know there is many Mannies out there now – which is so so great! Yay! – and I definitely am not here to discriminate, so just a little disclaimer, that the same goes for Live in Mannies 😉.

Please let me know, down in comments, if you have experience as a live in Nanny or Nanny boss with a live in Nanny. Maybe you have something to add? I would love to hear it! You can also contact me on my instagram or drop me an email on the.lovely.nanny.world@gmail.com

As always, sharing is caring!

The Lovely Nanny xx

HOW TO PRACTICE GRATITUDE WITH KIDS

 

We live in a day and age where we have an overwhelming amount of things. Sometimes it’s super hard to be grateful for what you have, and be grateful for the things someone does for you rather than buys for you. For tiny humans that is just the same, especially after December when they usually get an enormous amount of things that they don’t even know what to do with.

I get it, I love buying presents for loved ones, but I’ve come to realise over the years that the most important thing is my relationship with the person, I want to give a gift to, and my time with them, no present can substitute that. So, I wanted to write down a few ways we can practice gratitude on a daily basis with children. It does matter what we instil in their little minds from early on, what patterns we shape, so I think this will be a good thing to do all year around, but especially around and after holidays.

 

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The Gratitude Game

The game needs ideally three or more players and one person to serve as a timekeeper. Have everyone sit in a circle with one person starting off saying, “I am grateful for [fill in the blank].” That person has five seconds to come up with something for which they are thankful, whether it be their favourite stuffed animal, food or activity. As soon as the first person finishes, the person to the left goes. “The key is to say what you are grateful for without repeating, and without pausing for more than five seconds,” by Lennay Chapman.

Goodnight Gratitude

Every night before or after bedtime story we can say what we are grateful for. This makes for a nice finish to the day and leaves us feeling good and happy.

Be Thankful for Others’ Hard Work

Teaching your children to be thankful for the hard work everyone put into making the life easier and happier for us is crucial to raising unspoiled children. No matter how many staff you have at home teaching children to appreciate what everyone does for them is just right.

Random Acts of kindness

Being nice and kind in never overrated. Teaching by example and letting children know that just doing a small thing like helping an older lady with the groceries or picking something someone lost and give it to them can make their whole day and change the world for better. That might sound silly but that is exactly how we start, with small things in our community.

Say Thank you and Mean It

We throw thank you around a lot, but do we really mean it? Maybe say thank you less but when you do, really mean it. When we teach children to say thank you, let them say it in a full sentence like: ‘Thank you daddy for repairing this for me’. That way ‘thank you’ is not just a word, but a mean to let someone know they appreciate them.

Think of Others

Do small things/surprises for your loved ones, like buy their favourite fruit, make a card, make the bed or clean the office and involve kids in it. Ask them what they think would make someone happy.

 

 

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There is really many many ways we can practice gratitude with kids and create a happy life. I hope this will give you some ideas and bring you joy while doing it. I would love to hear how are you practising gratitude? Let me know in the comments!

The Lovely Nanny xx

 

P.S. I originally wrote this blog post for blog of a lovely Nanny from Australia that live and works in London.

RECYCLE TO CRAFT

We live in a world where recycling has become totally normal and is part of our daily routine. It is particularly important to introduce recycling, and be an example, to the tiny humans. One way to do that, is by using things we have on hand – or would throw out.

We certainly don’t need to buy a lot of things to do a craft. Sure it’s lovely to get special papers, boxes, tubes, all sorts of glues, glitter and stickers. Sometimes we want to do a specific crafts, and that is perfectly fine. But I challenge you to go around the house and you will see there is a million things, you could use, to do all sorts of craft with children.

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PAPER 

  • we all have things delivered – amazon boxes are usually in a really good condition and they are all brown (just remove the sellotape) and you have a great brown carton to work with.
  • toiler roll tubes and paper towel tubes
  • cling film and aluminium foil tubes
  • all sorts of small boxes (tea, crackers)
  • newspaper (so good for protecting the table and doing paper mâché)
  • egg containers
  • some nice wrap paper saved
  • napkins (also great for paper mâché)

PLASTIC

  • yogurt cups (there is all sorts and shapes out there!
  • disposable cutlery and plates
  • water bottles and their caps ( caps from fruit pouches are really good as they are all sorts of bright colours)
  • empty cosmetic packaging
  • vegetables packaging (square baskets from salads or peppers)

 

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GLASS

  • from all sorts of food items (jam, yogurt, olives)

YOU CAN ALSO USE

  • old fabric (pair of trousers that are ripped  – cut the good parts out)
  • old wood (if you have a wood shop near by, why don’t you stoop there and ask for some cut outs, they surely have a lot that they would maybe throw away otherwise)
  • metal parts (not sharp though!), could be old coins, screws with flat ends
  • funny shaped things you can get hands on

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I have been very lucky, and sometimes I guess spoiled as well, as in all my Nanny positions I have had a lot of great materials bought, so I can do crafts with the kiddos. But as much as that is lovely, its also important to use what we have and not accumulate new things. That way we can help our lovely planet at least a little bit. The craft will not be any worse if it’s made from old material, and there is nothing that a little splash of colour and glue can’t fix!  The only thing that matters, when we do crafts with kids, is what they learn along the way and that they have fun!

I will aim to do a recycled craft now and than with kiddos, so join me, tag me in your recycled crafts, message me on instagram or send me an email on the.lovely.nanny.world@gmail.com and I would be happy to post all the crafts up here for everyone to see!

SHARING IS CARING!

The Lovely Nanny xx

Snow days

Strange ha, it’s March and I feel the winter has just properly started. It’s snowing outside, it so cold and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready for spring! Unfortunately we don’t really have a choice though, so I thought, I can write down a few things, tricks and hacks, that helps you survive the last span of cold snowy days.

ACTIVITIES INSIDE AND OUTSIDE

Sensory boxes

You can make sensory boxes with snow and some toys and let children get to know the snow inside first. Sensory boxes will keep them occupied for a while and they will use and learn:

– Practical Life Skills (dumping, filling, scooping)

Play Skills (social play and independent play)

– Will help with Language Development

– And they will use their Senses (Touch, sight, sounds, taste and smell)

 

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Declare a book day!

There was a World Book Day just a while ago, but you can make your own one whenever you want really. When the weather is really bad and there is no way you can go outside, search on the book shelf and get out some new books or books you haven’t read for a very long time. That way it will be more exciting. Let the kids choose the books they want to read. Take in turns, let them have a go at reading (telling) the story. They practice public speech and develop their imagination. It also never hurts to catch extra cuddles!

 

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Go out and roll in fresh powder

Give the opportunity to experience all the snow is. For some children that will be a very special occasion as they do not usually get much snow or perhaps live in the country where there is none. Dress them warm (I saw a really cool trick to help keep kiddos gloves dry if you don’t have the ski ones on hand – you put disposable gloves over them!) It might be a bit strange but it will keep them dry for a bit longer so they can finish making the snowman – or snow frog 🐸 😁!

 

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Do experiments with snow and water

– Colour the snow with syringes full of different colours (make sure you protect the area) Could be done outside or inside.

– When it’s really cold put some water in ice trays and leave it outside overnight – to make ice, than bring it in and observe what happens over time (you can also colour it with paintbrushes )

– What melts faster (water, salt over snow) experiment

That is just a few ideas from the top of my head, if you search, I’m sure you’ll find many more to fill your days.

 

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I hope you will love my ideas for fun snow days. Obviously this is just a scope of the things you can do, but those ones, were always very well received, with the kiddos I look after. Now, we only need more snow days!

Have a fabulous week!

The Lovely Nanny xx

WORLD BOOK DAY 2018

It’s a great day today! It a day where we can celebrate all the lovely books being written for us to enjoy. I love books so much, and I firmly believe that reading to children from the first day of their lives should be our big priority and joy. It’s wonderful to read, to listen the stories and to let the imagination come to life.

Reading to and with kids is one of the most effective ways to build a language base and great for cognitive development. Reading, in combination with talking, playing, and singing, is the best way to increase the number of words a child hears and learns in the early years. Reading increases focus, memory, and concentration. It also increases your child’s empathy and tolerance for others who are different. It’s pretty remarkable what reading will do for your child and you. Reading together might be one of the only times your child has your full attention, and (as time goes by) one of the only times you have your child’s full attention.

My favourite books for kids, parents, nannies, grandmas, uncles and grumpy frogs:

HIPPO HAS A HAT By Julia Donaldson

I have wrote about this book before. This book is short but very interactive, with easy rhymes and eye catching illustrations. Children can easily recognize animals and different types of clothing. Book can be extended with activity which would vary according to age. I would recommend the book for children age as little as 8 months up to 4 years.

FOUR SEASONS By Rotraut-Susanne Berner

There is four books like four seasons. This books are an amazing journey of discovering for all age of early years children. Also I love to get lost in them. Especially the wintery ones! They promote imagination as you can made up stories about every page, develop an eye for detail as there is 4 books about all seasons and the people and stories continue so children can get the sense of storytelling, they start to recognise different jobs, habits and holidays each season and every time they can spot something new as the illustrations are brilliant! Starting from 6 months on – when they do the tummy time, you can put the book under them 😉

That’s not my ….Mermaid …. By Fiona Watts

I can not say much more than, this collection – and there is a lot of them! – is super fabulous! The kiddos just love them and they are super fun for adults as well. Starting from new born on!

GOOD NIGHT STORIES FOR REBEL GIRLS By Elena Favilli, Francesca Cavallo and Brigitt Kollmann

This book nearly made a small revolution, with it’s bald statements about girl power! I’m all about super girls as I have a chance to look after so many and I know how important is to have role models that inspire. From 2,5 – 3 years on (but it never hurts to read to a baby does it)

THE WHOLE BRAIN CHILD By Dr Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel Siegel

Enjoyable and certainly not dull read for parents, teachers, nannies… Have a go!

HOW CHILDREN LEARN By Linda Pound (and other collections)

Such a good book to go through and have on hand to refer back to, weather you are a teacher, parent or grandmother. This collection has many other great books but I believe for start that is enough. Touches on educational theories and approaches of great Vygotsky, Maria Montessori and others.

And last one, which become my favourite very recently:

GRUMPY FROG By Ed Vere

This book is all about feelings and it super fun and relatable to the younger generation now. Its all about the things we need to teach children now and that is compromise,  tolerance, friendship and the power of saying sorry.

 

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Let me know which one is your favourite book, when do you read and who do you read with! I would love to hear all about it! I have linked all of the books so you can find them, just click on the title!

You can got to this website to get more book resources.

As always, sharing is caring 😁

The Lovely Nanny xx

 

 

 

NANNY AGENCIES

Da da da da (imagine a real serious music) 😁 Well Okay, I Have been listening to a podcast from founder of a Nanny agency, Lucy, about how we have to give Nanny agencies a break. And I thought I can write my view on the topic. It is a very touchy- feely subject, but I feel I have quite a lot of experiences with Nanny agencies in a different  countries, good and bad and really bad.

I was so incredibly excited when I signed with my first Nanny agency. I imagined it as they see me as a great professional who will be a good asset to their portfolio and I was just so thrilled I will be represented by the best in the business. I had deepest respect for them and seen them as the ones who will get me the jobs I want and represent me fairly. I had grown up since than a little, but it still catches me by surprise, that way too often when the Nanny agency places you with the family, they are done with you. That way too often you are not being put forward for the jobs you want (given you do fill all the criteria for it), that sometimes you will even be sent to the interview and there will be no-one there, or the family will be a really bad match for you – even though you said what you are looking for.

Once you learn how they operate (and I have to add it is not all of them that operate the same) than you kind of almost give up, as somehow the middle man (which is the agency) never seems to work in your favour. As much as they say how great you are and how they know you will be perfect for the jobs they are sending you to, it is really up to you to read between the lines and see what the situation is.

This is a view from one side – Nanny side. I also want to say that I do know how much hard work goes in to what the agencies are doing. Lots of times the clients (families) they are pitching the jobs for, have really poor communication with them and sometimes they even disappear. I imagine every day they also have to deal with Nannies who have to high demands – with too little experience. All that said I still feel many of them are not giving enough support to the people who they are actually placing in the positions.

When things go bad with families, and believe me – they do go bad (just scroll down a Nanny facebook page – you can read horrible things daily), the agencies lift their hands of the case and say they can not do anything. I do agree that problems that occurred on the job, you need to solve by yourself, but I cannot help but wonder, what to do when things really go south – when you are in a new country and the family trows you out, or you are not getting paid, being assaulted verbally…ect.).  I have a hinge that agencies who are big and busy and are constantly changing their staff, sort of loose the balance and there is no way that that agency is the right one to represent you.

Another problem I see is no update, working in the stone age since forever. But times change, people have different needs and no time. Just an example to give you. When I was looking for a new position a while ago, I signed with a few new agencies. For most of them I had to send in a new application form, which usually is at least 4 pages long, with all my details from my CV written in. Every form has different layout, for some of them I needed to instal new programs etc. Don’t get me wrong, I want the job, I have to put in the work, that is cristal clear to me, but at the time I was working 6 days a week and more plus some nights and every one of the forms took me hours to do. There was only Lucy’s agency that had this clever survey you have to fill in instead of the old boring Application form. I thought that was really good, and refreshing amongst all the other agencies.

I would also like to write about some positive things regarding Nanny agencies and there is definitely a light there. I have been signed with a lot of ”high end” agencies, that literally promised the world. From all of them I can literally count on one hand how many I can trust to represent my name. Those will usually be smaller agencies (but by no means small in work ethic and experience), and the ones that did not twerk the jobs when presenting them to me.
To conclude what I think is, if the agency is not what you think you want, than you have an option not to work with them anymore and focus on being loyal to agencies that work with you and for you. The ones who actually put you forward for the jobs, the ones who respect you millage and your worth. You also have to learn that some things (most of them) you will have to resolve yourself, and I promise you, that you will get really got at it. But we do learn all our lives, and don’t be so hard on yourself if you fail the first time.
BUT where to go to deal with all your work frustration other than to the agency, your family or your friends?  I will write about that soon! So stay tuned!
As always I would be very happy to see your comments and opinions on the topic. It would be great to start a debate so we can start changing thing for the better- for all of us. Maybe you have some experience first hand? Let me know, you can also DM me on instagram or write me on my email the.lovely.nanny.world@gmail.com
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TLN xx

Nanny Survival Guide

Nannying is one of the most wonderful jobs you can have. But it’s also one of more demanding ones, and if you don’t take care of yourself, sooner or later you will burn out.  I did, it wasn’t great, and this is what I learn since.

1. You are as important as the family you look after

Your life, plans and commitments are as real as your bosses. Make sure they know that from the beginning. When you take time off, try to really switch off, so you can come back fresh and recharged.

2. Socialise!

Find friends, other Nannies, which you can rely on, and can make playdates with or coffee dates. Nannying can be such a lonely job, it’s nice to have other grown ups to talk to.

 

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3. Stay healthy, exercise, meditate

Eat good, heathy food, drink a lot of water and take vitamins. We all know how hard it is to drink enough throughout the day, because most days, you can’t use toilet more than once, and even than a child will be sitting next to you. Exercise is so important if you want to keep up with the little ones, but also, it helps you fight every virus that is coming to get you. I recommend pilates or yoga, as when you work 7-7 with screaming tiny humans, an hour of meditation does wonders. But really, whatever gets you going!

4. Learn to say NO

When you feel overworked, learn to say no. It is hard, but for your own sake, you will have to learn it. Learn to say no, if you already made plans and they ask you for babysitting, do another house chore or working an extra day on the weekend. But also say yes, when you can. It is nice to help out when you are able to. The right family will always appreciate that.

5. Communicate with your bosses

Learn to talk to your bosses even about the difficult stuff. About money, children’s behaviour, holidays, time off and all subjects that normally give you bad anxiety.

6. Stand up for yourself

You are your own lawyer, HR, social worker, cheer squad and support group. You are a grown up, professional who knows what to do in her job, that is why you have been hired – now act like it! When you feel something is not quite right, think about it and than try to come up with a reasonable solution, to present to your bosses. But always stand up for yourself, because if you won’t, no one will!

 

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Now I will not say all that is equally easy for every one, but in order to stay healthy and sane, you will have to look after yourself. We all have a certain idea of how the job should be done, but don’t overwork yourself. It’s so easy and so not worth it. Every sane family will want you happy and healthy.

Please let me know what are your top survival tips down in the comments!

As always sharing is caring!

The Lovely Nanny xx

 

We need a new title for career NANNIES

I was reading this post on Instagram from a founder of a first class private gym, about how everybody can be a personal trainer, but not every one is a great one. I can see a struggle in that industry, as you don’t really have to do years of studying and you can work as a Personal trainer. That than causes a side effect of having a poorly regulated market of good and bad. And I feel exactly the same about being a Nanny.

I feel discouraged when I talk about my chosen profession and I feel defensive. I’m not sure if anything really helps to say or explain, when people you are talking to, have no idea what it takes to be a great Nanny, that babysitter, Au pair and Nanny are not the same, that actually being a Nanny is a career you have chosen, because you want to, not because you want to have a few years of fun, before you find a real job.

Where I came from, being a Nanny is not really a thing, as state nurseries and kindergartens are available to most population. It’s also not a very well paid, if even a job in most of my friends opinion. Or they are surprised I get paid well and only do that?

I’m not really writing this post to defend or apologise Nannies, but I feel like, the more we talk about it, the more people will know, and realised, it is a job, like any other.

It had its own perks like being able to spend a lot of time outside, sing songs, have cuddles, see the world, enjoy the luxury, but it also have a downside like any other job, like never being able to go to the toilet alone (not even for number 2), eating lunch with someone on your lap or showing it down while they sleep, walk around with clothes full of glue, sparkles and snot, seeing a lot of poop on a daily basis, and if you are a live in Nanny, you can say goodbye to sleeping without interruption (unless you sleep with ear plugs) and having a real privacy.

Some of the Nannies are good, some are just doing it because they are young and want to enjoy the life before settling for a real job, and some are amazingly good. How to distinguish between them, does require a little knowledge about the profession. It also depends on what do you want In your Nanny, and what matters the most to you and your family.

Have you ever feel discouraged when asked what you do? Do you feel the title of your position shall be more according what you do? Like if you are a professional Nanny, temporary Nanny, Babysitter?  There should definitely be some difference between the titles or at least a mixture between Teacher and Nanny? What do you think?

Would love to hear your thoughts on the topic I sort off started.

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The Lovely Nanny xx

SPAGHETTI SENSORY PLAY

”In play experiences, combining the sense of touch with the senses of vision, hearing, taste and smell helps build cognitive skills’

I’m stealing this brilliant idea from my fellow Nanny who is also a good friend of mine. We actually did this together once and I must say the kids loved it! So I would love to share it with you! It is super easy to make, but provides a lot of joy! It is a wonderful idea when you need a quick entertainment or a long play session.

👉🏼 This sensory play can also be super helpful when a child is particularly fussy with eating foods with a wet texture such as spaghetti. The use of sensory play can assist the child in touching, smelling and playing with the texture in an environment with little expectation.

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But first I would just like to quickly touch on why sensory play is good.

  • Sensory play helps to build nerve connections in the brain.
  • Sensory activities prompt children to use scientific processes while they play.
  • It is proven that engaging a child’s senses while presenting them with a learning task helps them to retain the information and fully comprehend it.
  • Sensory play is therapeutic on an emotional level and helps to calm and soothe children during difficult times or before bed.
  • Sensory play facilitates language development, problem solving skills, cognitive function, and fine and gross motor skills.
  • Playing with sensory materials helps children to develop their creative process.

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”Cognitive skills are those skills we use when we solve problems and create novel ideas from current ideas.”

Cook spaghetti as it says on the package. Than divide them into as many bags as you have colours. We did three this time, but you can get super creative. Than tip a few drops od dye into the bag (depending on how strong you want the colour to be) and a few drops of vegetable oil. Than mix them together to spread the colour all over spaghetti.

TIP: Leave the coloured spaghetti to dry if you don’t want the colours to stain your hands!

After that, it’s just fun! Use some forks, food tweezers, little figures, little cars, cups different sizes…

FUN FACT: Did you know that ZINC helps maintain healthy cognitive development? You can read a little more about it in this article here!

As always, sharing is caring!

The Lovely Nanny xx