Summer Holidays

We have a little over 3 weeks of summer holidays left here in UK and I thought now is the time for me to start putting my thoughts back on the paper (or computer – but you know what I mean!). 

I assume there is two camps of childcarers and parents out there. One camp is patiently waiting for school to start and the other one is dreading the school runs and rush. I get it! At this point the routine (or what is left of it) has evaporated with the heat wave Europe has the pleasure to experience and you might be feeling a little done and tired. Maybe the kids are not behaving as ‘great’ as the usually do, and you are wondering weather you can manage to survive the last weeks with grace and dignity, while also having lots of fun. I am here to assure you that you can and also give you a few helpful hints if you need them. 

When I find myself overwhelmed with work, children, anything (and I do, just like everyone else!) I tend to go back to basics. Maybe even have a tiny little meltdown, than I brush myself off and start thinking of things that helped In the past. And just as we get overwhelmed at times, children get overwhelmed with a lot of things. There is so much happening around them, and as they are not equipped with tools to identify feelings and process them in the most gracious way, they simply overflow their cup daily, and the spillage is seen as a tantrum, scream, slap, pinch…just to name a few. 

Now, we as adults know, that most of the time, when children act out, is usually because their basic needs are not met. They act in a way that they think will get their basic needs met, and if that does not happen, they try another way (and boy they are pretty resourceful ha?). The way adults try to correct children’s behaviour is to act when negative behaviour presents, which might work for some time, but sooner or later negative behaviour will still continue, you feel stuck, tired and overwhelmed with constant warnings. Sometimes behaviour even gets worse. That is when you have to draw a line and start over. 

So if you find yourself drawing a line and having a little ‘enough is enough’ moment, here is a few tips you might like to try out. 

  1. Plan a day or morning or hour with just you and the kids, without any other distractions, no playdate, playgroup, class etc. Take the kids to the park and just play with them, forget about preparing flawless organic snacks and just sit down with them, talk to them, listen to them, hug them, be silly and see what happens. 
  1. Praise the good behaviour – it pays off! Children need a lot of instant feedback, praise when it happens not two days later.
  1. Make them your little helpers – if you cannot get them to do their chores, promote them to your assistant, and don’t get upset if they spill a little water when they bring the cup from the table.
  1. Relax! Yes it is absolutely essential that the kids are safe, fed and thriving, but they will not remember if their toys where all tidy and in right boxes, if the clothes were matching and what you ate. What they will remember is, how much you hug them, how they felt around you, how much bugs they saw on the garden on how much they made you jump every time they showed you a spider!
  1. Read a book with them (any will do) and cuddle on the sofa. The book by Carol Mccloud is absolutely a winner when you need to reinstall some positive behaviour. I think it is absolutely genius to present the idea of filling people’s buckets when we are kind, do something nice and taking away from them when we are not. It is not complicated and very easy for children to imagine the whole thing.

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At the end of the day the thing we all agree upon is, giving children a childhood that will give them wings and teach them how to fly them. It doesn’t make a difference if you are a parent, Nanny, Manny, childcarer, Teacher, those goals are the same. 

Hope you will enjoy the rest of the summer, and if you are starting or already started school, have a great start!

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TLN

HOLIDAY WREATH

We are being a tad creative in this holiday season and It’s just so nice! I wanted to share with you our lates creation.

⭐️ This is an advanced craft you can do with a slightly older child (4 years +). It is activity that slowly evolves to the finished product. We had been gathering material on our walks, talking about what are we going to make, talking about the colours, the shapes and things we are going to use. Even though every step in not possible to be done by a small child (hot glue gun) is it still great to involve them in all the steps and explain what we are doing and let them do as much as possible (like choosing pinecones you will then glue on the circle and so on – could also practising counting -how many pinecones do we need to fill out the circle…). ⭐️

 

Have a look at these lovely pictures!

 

 

First we cut a circle from recycled carton (try and use what you have at home, every one have a used box or two-we all love amazon am I right!). Use a plate to do a circle or something else, depending on how big of the circle you want. Use hot glue gun to make everything easier, but never leave it unattended with tiny humans around. Then really, just as you wish, start placing pinecones around the circle and make a wreath (make it a fun activity even though you’ll be the one to glue them on) 👆🏽

 

 

Next we have previously picked this little bananas (as we like to call them) and some other nice tiny branches and we just sticked them around to fill the gaps and make it even more festive. I found these jingle bells in shop called Flying Tiger and thought they would be perfect to put around the wreath as little one love the 🌈 colours. Together we have put them around and I just love the whole look! Doing the crafts like that is a great opportunity to also sing some festive songs (or any songs) and make the experience super christmasy! Our favourite songs to listen are from Super simple songs creators –  do you know them?

 

 

We added the last touch with some pink glitter. Mixing white glue and glitter together I let the tiny one do all the work. This completed our wreath and we were both very pleased with our lovely holiday wreath! Last thing we will do is just out some ribbon or string and hang it on the kids bedroom door.

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What crafts are you making this season? Let us know in the comments below! We would love to hear all about it!

As always sharing is caring 😉❤️

The Lovely Nanny xx

Team work – makes the dream work!

I learned a thing or two about the Nanny world. I’m quite sure there is more to come though, but I really appreciate every position and all the things I can be wiser for after. Coming to the private setting from Nursery environment was definitely different, but I quickly settled in to this special work place and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Nanny life can be quite a lonely place. In nursery there is always a huge collective of (mostly women unfortunately), who can share their ideas, thoughts and help each other. You have so many opportunities to do different seminars that are furthering your knowledge and there is a lot of children, with many personalities and that makes it super fun an keeps you on your toes. I have been very lucky that in my years of Nannying I could still work alongside other Nannies or Maternity Nurses, and made great friends with so many. If your mind is open you can learn a wealth of knowledge from other professionals in your line of work. Plus, there is nothing better, than a really good team that supports each other.

I also came across a very small percentage of carers who are really hard to be working around. What I always try and remember is, that I work for the benefit of the children I look after.  I’m not at my job to compete with someone, bash them, not there to be doing something that is not good for the child just so it’s the opposite what the other person suggested.

I feel that every Nanny/Manny should be professional and respectful towards any other person she or he is working with, no matter what.

It could get a little heated sometimes, especially when it’s a lot of women with lots of hormones on top of each other, but we are all there to do a good job, and not to start a World War III.

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As a Nanny, you are first and foremost an example.

The way you talk and act says all about you, and tiny little eyes are like scanners, and nothing goes un missed. There is no problem if you are not BFF FOREVER ✌🏼 with someone the family you work for just hired, no problem at all. You also don’t have to agree with everything they say, but you should always be professional. Some characters just don’t match and that is okay. Don’t sweat the small stuff, be yourself, be kind, but also don’t allow anyone to walk over you. Learn to stand for yourself and your knowledge, your wisdom, your millage. You are experienced professional and you know how to do your job.

Working alongside someone else can be so amazing and you can make life long friends or just great colleagues. You also get that extra help, so you are not alone for everything, plus because you are not alone, you can provide children with even more activities than you would normally be able to. And sometimes being an only Nanny can be quite lonely, and you realise that the whole day, you only talked with a 1 year old who only says ”bla bla” and ”bu” back. It is really nice to have someone there, that knows exactly how you feel, so If you thinking about working in a team – go for it!

Do you have any experience with working in a team for fully staffed households? How do you find working in a team? Prefer to work alone? Let me know in the comments below, send me a message on instagram or email on the.lovely.nanny.work@gmail.com

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The Lovely Nanny xx